Domestic violence affects millions of men and women across North America. In the United States, over 1.3 million cases of domestic violence are reported annually, with intimate partner violence impacting nearly one in four women and one in ten men at some point in their lives. While domestic violence remains underreported, it often leaves severe physical and emotional impacts on victims, including PTSD and other long-term effects.
An average of 24 people per minute or more than 12 million per year are victims of physical violence, stalking or rape by an intimate partner in the U.S.
In Canada, approximately one in three women and one in five men have experienced intimate partner violence since the age of 15. This issue cuts across all demographics and regions, emphasizing the importance of awareness, support services, and intervention strategies to address this widespread problem. Domestic violence issues contribute to nearly 8 million lost days of paid work each year, which is the equivalent of 32,000 full-time jobs.
Many of us have found ourselves in situations where we suspect a friend or family member may be experiencing domestic violence and are unsure what to do. There are safe and supportive ways you can help, including:
1. Listen Without Judgement
Create a safe, non-judgmental space for them to talk. Listen empathetically without pressuring them to make decisions, and let them know they are not alone. Avoid giving unsolicited advice; instead, ask if there’s anything they need or how you can best support them.
2. Offer Resources and Information
Provide information about local shelters, hotlines, or domestic violence organizations. In the U.S., for example, the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233) offers support and resources. Make sure they know that help is available, even if they are not ready to take action immediately.
3. Avoid Confronting the Abuser
Confronting the abuser can increase the risk to the victim. Instead, focus on supporting the person affected and helping them feel empowered to make their own choices.
4. Be Patient and Respect Their Choices
Leaving an abusive situation is often complex, and victims may not be ready to leave or seek help. Let them know that your support is unconditional, and respect their decisions.
5. Know the Warning Signs
Understand the signs of domestic violence, including physical injuries, isolation, emotional distress, and controlling behavior by a partner. Recognizing these signs can help you take the first steps toward offering support.
Offering non-judgmental support and resources can make a significant difference. Remember, your support can be a lifeline, helping them feel seen, supported, and empowered to make their own decisions when they are ready.
For team members experiencing domestic violence, the FirstService Relief Fund can offer essential support by providing financial assistance to employees and their families. For those impacted, the fund’s tax-free grants can help with immediate needs, such as securing temporary housing, covering relocation costs, or meeting other urgent financial obligations necessary for their safety and well-being. By alleviating some of the financial stress associated with escaping abuse, the Relief Fund empowers individuals to make decisions focused on their safety without the barrier of financial hardship.
Recently, a Relief Fund grant recipient who applied for a grant to help them get out of an abusive relationship shared their story with us.
“The FirstService Relief Fund allowed me to move out and get away from my partner. I just want to say thank you. Your generosity has made all the difference not just to me, but to my family as well.”
